Your account is delightful and insightful, Arbor. I've never been a parent, but as a husband of twenty-six years (almost twenty-five of them with my current wife) I agree with your outlook of being friends and partners with a spouse.

I'm going to post a friend link to your story in my FB feed; I have friends young and old (new parents, old parents, about-to-be parents) who will get something from it. (A friend link won't get you income, but will boost your view numbers a tad.)