Yes and no, Danna. I can get my head around the *concept*, but in terms of emotional appeal for a polyamorous relationship, there’s nothing. However, I should mention that I’m wired differently. I can only feel an emotional attraction to one woman at a time. I discovered this when my first marriage was falling apart and there was a coworker who was bright, funny, friendly, cute… and nope, no emotional attraction. Intellectually I knew that if I’d been single, I’d have done something, but that fluttery feel I get when I fall for someone just wasn’t there. (Didn’t feel it again until years after the split, when it had finally sunk in that I was really truly single again.) So I can understand how someone could love more than one person, just like I can understand how someone could be into kinky sex, but there’s no emotional connection for me.

However, if I can drag in a neutral third party, I would be interested in the reaction of Kris Gage (if you haven’t read her stuff, try it, she’s good about relationships; you’ll start off furious with her because she’s just wrong, then gradually come around to her points and end up giving her a bunch of claps). Kris, hi, grab a drink, Danna and I were commenting on the article (and polyamorous philosophy) of Madison Berry (follow the bread crumbs). Thoughts?

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