We’re kidless (and dogless — nod to Gerard Mclean) so it’s not a thing for us, but the weddings I’ve been to are either (a) totally family affairs, like family reunions or funerals but with crappier cake, or (b) grownups only, usually for the folks getting married before thirty who still have school friends they want to party with until 2am.

When Deb & I got married (#3 for her, #2 for me) in our mid-40s it was nothing but family at a nice local hotel; one of my favorite memories (besides the actual wedding) was raiding the hotel candy by the elevators with my five-year-old nephew (we alternated who got to push the elevator buttons). Everyone got to play with our youngest niece, my sister’s kid, not yet a year old, at the reception and breakfast the next day. But that was our call, and it was a great chance to get the two sides of the family together.

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