Thanks, Sherry! ❤ Sorry for your family pains!

Oddly enough, neither of us feels guilty. Someone we do not know and have never met is walking or not traumatized or alive because of what we did. Deb feels sad, sometimes, because of the relationship she had with my father before he started to decline; she misses that. She sends him notes and cards that someone reads to him, and he doesn’t really understand, but maybe the Dad she knew is still in there somewhere and hears them.

And we didn’t do this alone. People we never knew before could have sabotaged our efforts, but they knew the awful possibilities and helped us. A disparate team of strangers who came through for us.

Responses on Quora were 80% positive. The negative response was pulled shortly after it went up; the respondent pointed out how the loss of mobility and freedom destroys a person’s will to live, and they’re correct. Alas, we thought the chance of an octogenarian with dementia going sooner was less fearful than a hypothetical kid being struck by a car driven by an old man trying to figure out his radio station.

Husband & retiree. Developer, tech writer, & IT geek. I fill what’s empty, empty what’s full, and scratch where it itches. Occasionally do weird & goofy things.

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