Sarah, this reminds me of when my ex-wife, her significant other (female), and friends (a lesbian couple) decided it would be fun to watch some lesbian porn. (I was out of work, semi-broke, and living with my ex and her s.o. in the spare bedroom — long story. I was usually treated as "one of the gals," but in this case, my opinon wasn't asked.) My ex turned to some porn channel (this was 1990, no streaming) and they would get a couple minutes into a video before someone declared, "A guy did this one," and they went back to chatting. I finally asked what made a female-female sex scene different depending on who directed, which resulted in five or six different opinons from four women. I'm pretty sure they would have all agreed with you, though.