Oh, H.! I can’t offer advice to make it better, because my solution (which isn’t even a true solution, because I still hear my evil angels all the time, I just ignore the assholes when I’m with Deb) was to luck into the most wonderful woman in the world who loves me regardless of me. “Step 1: find a winning lottery ticket on the bus…”
I don’t know if hugs help, but I’ll send some your way: {{{*hugs*}}}