Oh good grief! Us, neither, I guess, although Deb is definitely Christian. (Me, I’m relaxed agnostic, or whatever you call somebody who goes to church services weekly or more, volunteers for duty in the AV booth, and is the church webmaster, but doesn’t believe in a god, intercessory prayer, or being an asshole to people who don’t align with me.) We have always operated our marriage as a partnership. Some things Deb takes lead on, some things I do, most things we work out together or at least keep each other in the loop. I suspect there are a lot of marriages out there like ours, regardless of the genders involved.