My ex-wife would like it to be known for the record (IOW, correcting what I've said before, in other articles but also in reply to your posts, Natalie, which is why I'm picking on you — plus you write well and this post has a LOT of action going on) that she was not, ever, even a little bit, bisexual. She always knew she was attracted sexually to women, exclusively. (Maybe Donny Osmond for a very short while when she was a tween. Very short while.) So when she asked me to marry her, it was not because she found me sexually attractive, she was just "SO done with women!" in that particular period in her life. (Yes, three successive relationships with women that went badly, then very badly, then OMG-what-a-shitshow badly. I was the friend who cuddled with her and brought her ice cream while I listened, so I know.) So she married me. And met the woman of her dreams a month later. 😐

What my ex immediately reminded me of is the 4B movement — straight women refusing to date men, have sex with men, marry men, or have kids with men. But these women aren't declaring they are now lesbians, they are just soooooo done with dealing with men. At all.

This sounds to me like something that must have happened to other lesbians at some point or other in their lives, but other than my ex I don't remember running into it. Does it make sense to you, Natalie?