I Still Like Being Married

What’s better than being married to your best friend? Nothing I’ve experienced.

Deb’s hand and mine. (photo by author)

In January 2016 I posted my first “big hit” on Medium, I Like Being Married. It got picked up by a Medium publication (I didn’t even know what those were back then) and received more claps and comments than any other story I’ve done. I thought it was time to update it a little.

Spoiler alert: as you might guess from the new title, I still like being married.

I’ve been married twice now. The first time was to my best friend. So was the second.

I don’t understand how guys can marry someone they love deeply and not want to be with them. All the time. I’ve never related to men who want to get away from their wives.

I love my wife. I’m anxious when I’m away from her for too long, and when we’re together it’s like I’m on a drug that keeps me happy and even-keeled. In over twenty-five years together, I’ve never been tempted by another woman.

On the other hand, I’m not wired like most guys. Years ago, I took an online test meant to measure how the subject fits on the autism spectrum; I tested borderline. Not definitive, more “you may want to consult with a professional,” but it fit with my experience. And that was in my late 40s, when I’d gotten…