I showed this thread to my wife, starting with your original post. Your photo got a “Wow!” from her, as did your life story, so FWIW, Jane, my wife thinks you’re impressive.
Oh, and she wants it on the record that 3½ years difference in age does NOT make her a cougar. (Yes, dear.)
She also goes through phases where she feels old, or fat, or just plain unpretty. I look her in the eyes and tell her she’s the most beautiful woman in the world to me; she smiles back at me and damn! It’s totally true!