Women’s agency only comes into play where blame is involved. In a passage on what to do if your husband mistreats you, Andelin writes that a woman shouldn’t try to change his behavior (not to mention leave him), but should “count these flaws as human frailties.” A mistreated wife needn’t be a doormat, but should “have some self-dignity. Stand up to him and he will love you more because of it. But do it in the right way.” If a woman’s husband is having an affair, Andelin advises, “first, ask yourself if you did anything…