I can’t spin this as a case of #notallmen, because, well… #yepsorrymostmen. But I also, when I hit 40, figured this was it. Failed marriage. Relationships that had Gone Badly. Not good at connecting with people in general and female people in particular (especially ones I found attractive). I was alone. This was the rest of my life.

But maybe not?

Time passed. Twelve months. Now 41. Same situation. Yep, this was the rest of my life. Fine. Dealing with it.

Then I made a friend at work. Over 40, more so than I was. Two failed marriages. Relationships that had Gone Very Badly. Not good at connecting with people (better than me, though) and male people in particular. Alone. Dealing with it.

We just had a great weekend celebrating our 16th anniversary. I like being married.

Anyway, my point (and I did have one) is that, yes, 40 sucks. But sometimes, Good Shit Happens.

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