Holding Close and Letting Go

Jack Herlocker
2 min readApr 8, 2023

A book by two sisters called Sistering

Cover of Sistering. Image posted with permission of Danielle Neff, co-author.

My wife likes to read books. It’s less expensive than other habits. She just finished a new one.

The author, Danielle Neff (

) (full disclosure: also our pastor) sent Deb an advance reader copy of her book, Sistering: The Art of Holding Close and Letting Go in exchange for an honest review (next paragraph). Deb can hardly wait to get her own hard copy so she can read it again!

In Sistering, authors Jessica Dickey and Danielle Neff courageously invite us into their heart space. Their stories are emotionally powerful, compelling and captivating, heartwarming and heartbreaking. It’s a book that’s difficult to put down. A playwright and a pastor respectively, these women explore the complexities of being in relationship. It is a book written by sisters and about sisters but not specifically for sisters or even for women in general. It’s about relationships, connectedness, and complementary personalities, which is why you will sometimes recognize yourself causing you to “consider your life a little differently,” as Ms. Dickey puts it.

You can pre-order the book on Amazon or from the publisher, Pilgrim Press; it will be available on May 15.

(Yes, I have started it, thank you, with Dani Neff’s permission. So far pretty good! All I can say for now.)



Jack Herlocker

Husband & retiree. Developer, tech writer, & IT geek. I fill what’s empty, empty what’s full, and scratch where it itches. Occasionally do weird & goofy things.