Hmmm, like me with my first wife. I knew from the beginning she was gay (met through a lesbian mutual friend) so we were just friends. Then good friends. Then very good friends, who held hands and cuddled and shared a bed sometimes and had non-sexual kisses. I enjoyed romantic gestures toward her (flowers, cards, small gifts) and vice versa, but we didn’t have sex until we decided to get married. At which point she found that she really didn’t enjoy sex with a man, even one she loved, so she probably was not actually bisexual; and I found I thought sex was okay, but not the be-all and end-all everyone made it out to be (I faked orgasms every time — not that hard for a guy to do, especially because women never expect it from the guy). I would not consider myself asexual, because I am sexually attracted to women (and most definitely to my current wife), but I just seldom found actual sex worth the time and effort. Fortunately, my age and medical condition make it moot anyway.