Hi, Lollapoloza; welcome to Medium. It is ALWAYS cool to jump in around here, that’s what Medium is about (well, mostly). Almost any polite question, comment, or “that reminds me of something that happened to me” is okay. Although (just to warn you) this can lead to mansplaining or geeksplaining (or links to previous stuff the author has posted).
It’s like mansplaining*, only… wait, let me put it in terms you’ll understand.
Hmmm, married lists. Three flavors, IMHO (anybody who disagrees will jump in — welcome to Medium!):
ToDo Lists for Me: Keeping track of things I need to get done. Usually the same kind of things as the ToDo list I kept when I was single, except for additional things I never realized were essential to life before I got married. ;-)
ToDo Lists for Spouse: Often, but not exclusively, kept by wives for husbands (at least the way husbands tell it). Often called “honey dew” (“Honey, do this for me…”) lists.
What I Want in a Spouse: Strictly speaking, more a pre-marriage list, but still important.
Hope that helps!