Good video, Matt, thanks for passing it on!

I had not heard of the models of consent in the second half, but I especially liked the Wheel of Consent concept. Mostly because it fit with my experience, of course. 😁 My wife believed sex was a way to show love, in both directions, and good sex meant true love. I, meanwhile, had been through two previous relationships where I had not climaxed once despite a couple dozen attempts, so I viewed sex as cuddling but more messy. (Side note: not hard for a guy to fake an orgasm, it turned out. Helps with a partner who was not especially worried about me climaxing, because guys are easy, right? 😐) It would have been helpful at the time to understand that sometimes my wife wanted to have sex because *S*E*X* and sometimes she just wanted to feel loved or to let me know that she loved me. Then as she got into menopause, sex got more difficult (“more messy” goes to a whole new level when lube enters the picture) and we eventually agreed to just give it up.

But we still cuddle lots, and somehow consent never seems to be a problem. Nor how much we love each other.