FWIW, Renata, I was in a relationship with a woman where our roles were the same as you describe, only reversed — she was always telling me I needed to communicate “better,” and then she’d tell me how I was doing it wrong. Lather, rinse, repeat.

Later I met this nice person; she talked and I listened, I talked and she listened, we talked and we listened, neither talked and we listened. It worked pretty well. (Okay, only twenty years so far, but the momentum seems to be good.)

Anyway, hang in there, somebody will think you are perfect the way you are and the way you talk!

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