Faye, I’m with Jennifer and Freda — dump this guy. I was in a relationship many years ago with someone who tried to ”fix” me in terms of how I should carry on a conversation, how I should pay attention to what she was saying, how to practice “active listening.” I never got it right, even though I was doing things like sitting alone in a room in the dark while we talked on the phone so that I gave her my complete concentration. My wife’s second husband was into total control like your boyfriend. It took my wife and I a few years of marriage and mutual trust before we got our heads cleared up. Don’t wait too long. Run.

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