Explaining and confessing to strangers is tiring, filling in background. Yet we can also skip the trivial parts and focus on the important nuggets, and the strangers do not fill in the empty spaces with their familiarity because they can’t see the white space.
In an essay space such as Medium, we also have the luxury of editing ourselves. How does this read to a stranger? I should not have mentioned her, she doesn’t fit in — wait, yes, make her a footnote, now it hangs together.
We can see the white space we leave. Where do we need to fill in? This makes me sound stupid, but it made sense at the time. It did, right? Now even I think I sound stupid. No, this was before the accident, I need to mention that part. How could I forget that? That’s right, everything changed after that.
We remember ourselves better when we confess and explain to strangers.