Don’t know if that qualifies as universal truth, but that’s how it worked for me and my wife. We weren’t looking for love anymore; we just happened to find a friend. Who turned out to be a kindred spirit. Who turned into a best friend to whom we could tell anything. Who was suddenly someone we couldn’t live without. We’ve talked about when we started to say “I love you” and neither of us remember the first time. We just were.