Charity, fwiw, Deb’s first husband, Bill, was gay. He didn’t know it going into the marriage, so when everything fell apart it was a surprise all around. It took a few years, but eventually the things that brought them together in the first place made them rekindle their friendship. By the time Deb met me they enjoyed taking weekend trips together; Bill was the only “non-family” member at our wedding (where I got treated to “Bill stories” from Deb’s side of the family). Alas, Bill passed away from cancer a few years ago; he was a good person, and we miss him.