Alexandria, besides what Alexainie said (listen to her, she is a Wise Woman), if you made a list of the top ten reasons you do not want to be with this guy, would “living with his mother” make the top five? Would it make the list at all? (Although I realize that the title “I Can’t Be With You Because YOU ARE A FRAKIN’ ASSHOLE, DOUCHEBRAIN!” might not be what you want to project as a professional persona.) The living arrangments showed other problems, but I came up with five bigger ones just re-skimming your piece.

Speaking of lists, do you have a list of things you want in a partner? I suggest writing them down. On paper. In pen. (Okay, pencil for first draft.) Put the list in your wallet or on your fridge or some place where you can get to it easily. And when you find someone who makes you think Maybe, just maybe, check the list. [I should maybe mention that my wife did this. I scored 100%. Including “bald.” Although by the time she showed me her list we pretty much knew it was working.]

Anyway, nice article, do not for the sake of all that’s holy even contemplate getting back together with douchebrain, and good luck. I think you’ll be fine.

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