(after showing this comment to Deb)

DEB: That is so sweet! What a wonderful thing to say!

(after showing Deb your hair remark)

DEB: HA! That is just what Jan [SIL, wife of Deb’s brother] would say to you!

ME: Yup, looks like I have yet another sister-in-spirit to pick on me. NE and Dennett and Ann Litts …

Note that a sister-in-spirit is one who picks on you without mercy while also defending you against all comers. IMHO.