A ten-year relationship shows a commitment as good as most marriages, Bonnie, and better than some, IMHO. Definitely takes work. Even more so when there is no legal bond holding you two together, just love, mutual respect, and possibly a lockbox at an undisclosed location with incriminating evidence. 😉
OTOH, five marriages? As a Catholic? Is that kosher? Or does she keep having husbands die on her?